I have a dear friend who is Japanese. It is one of those relationships where I SO greatly enjoy her company and her and she just uttterly loves me, and I’m always bowled over by her love, affection, and adoration for me. Because, you see, we met because I sold to her. In addition to all of my Romance Coach and Dating Coach work, yup, I’m a Sales Woman. Love it.
You know how in all those sales books they preach to develop a relationship? BE their business partner? Well, you see, the thing is, I DID. I devoted my Fourth of July weekend to being a tour guide to her and her colleague because I couldn’t IMAGINE landing in a foreign country on a holiday weekend, our very nation’s birthday and being left alone. Indeed, we had great fun.
I observed Japanese formality only briefly with her to bow and greet her and honor her. And then we are girly hugs and squeals at SFO.
And we have stayed in touch even though I no longer work for the company where she became my customer.
Sweetly enough, she mailed me this incredibly beautiful birthday card. Yes, April Braswell. It’s the MONTH of April… so, my birthday approaches!
This card has cut out paper on it. A cloth fan with a gold bow. PINK beaded flowers. It’s amazing! Inside she included photographs from the very special and romantic and OH so Japanese, sweet, delicate and tender Cherry Blossom festival.
Sometimes using words to describe tenderness and love is to crush a butterfly.
That’s what it’s like to describe how I feel about her.
Friendship is such an unbelievable treasure. Her friendship is like watching a butterfly on a flower or to see the petals of the cherry blossoms fill the air like delicate pink snow. It is best just to see it and experience it rather than try to articulate it.
2 comments April 23, 2008
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Women more than men need and want to hear those magic words, “I LOVE YOU.”
For us, it’s like oxygen.
When we are in a loving relationship, I don’t know how the scientific research would describe it, but women like to HEAR this and daily, well, at least once if not several times.
Yeah, we KNOW you love us. Once you’ve said it and there’s a committed relationship, we BELIEVE you. And for men, often their ACTIONS are displaying their love, and trust me, we need that to.
But for those lovely men who approach me with my Online Personals, Online Dating, and Romantic Relationship coaching expertise and ask about, “How can I make her happy?” I tell them, “She needs to HEAR it from you as well.”
Tell her you love her (when you DO, of course!).
Have you told her you love her today?
Online Personals Expert, Online Dating Coach, Sexual and Romantic Relationship Coach
As an expert dating coach, I often hear from my clients, what type of man should I look for? What is my type, etc?
We, indeed, truly ARE in many ways attracted to men who remind us of our fathers or are essentially a reaction to our fathers. With my father’s death, indeed, here I am sucking down the Starbucks and am contemplating what my relationship with him, the voids and the lacks it triggered…..
Men who are protective, strong, leaders, authorities (sans being a jackass), with tenderness, well, those melt MY heart.
How about you?
What are some of the traits in men that curl your toes?
Well, yes, there ARE those fabulous things we call SHOULDERS! Oooooo!
All the best,
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April 3, 2008
All girls are so strongly influenced by their fathers. In my case, I married a dear sweet version of my brother. And today my father, John Y. Barry, died. I’ll comment on it more later. This weekend I am introspective. He is why I love to receive Pink Roses. For my 16th birthday, he sent me a dozen pink roses to me at school. I received them in the administrative offices. I felt like A PRINCESS. To this day, when men give me beautiful roses, I feel like A PRINCESS! Don’t you? Shouldn’t every woman? God bless and God speed. April Braswell
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